2005 is just about to leave, and it would be cliched to say, it just zoomed by. 2005 a was quite a good year, except for the passing away of one of my first boss, a man i looked upto always. His passing away has dealth a major blow. Professionally and personally, it has been a great year. I got the long due promotion. The year always ends with a blast, so much for having a b'day at the end of the year ;)
I just hope 2006 remains a peaceful one for me and for the entire world. I dont like to see so much of pain around the world.
Here's wishing all of u, a very happy, prosperous, peaceful, healthy, wealthy New Year filled with loads of good luck!!!!
Saturday, December 31, 2005
Friday, December 23, 2005
Merry Christmas
Its the end of the year and festivities are in the air.....Merry Christmas and dont forget to send gifts to me!!!!
Saturday, December 17, 2005
Bluff Master
After I don't know how many years, I went to watch a Friday show, the first day show y'day. My track of watching movies this year has been pathetic, every plan of watching a great movie (not that there have been many) has remained on the drawing board. Thanks to a few friends, I made it y'day.
Coming back to the movie, overall the movie fails to create an impact, its ok kinds, done well. Some wonderful fundas given, comparing different people with different size and kinds of fish in the sea. Beautifully shot, good background score and good show by some of the cast. Nana Patekar as usual stands apart with his love for self. Catch him performing an arti of himself. Hilarious. As the movie draws to an end, it just looses the original essence. Nevertheless Good time pass if u have lot of time.
Coming back to the movie, overall the movie fails to create an impact, its ok kinds, done well. Some wonderful fundas given, comparing different people with different size and kinds of fish in the sea. Beautifully shot, good background score and good show by some of the cast. Nana Patekar as usual stands apart with his love for self. Catch him performing an arti of himself. Hilarious. As the movie draws to an end, it just looses the original essence. Nevertheless Good time pass if u have lot of time.
Wednesday, December 14, 2005
Jerkyl and Hyde
Life has been busy...not a reason why i should not blog, but guess there is some force stopping me from blogging and not blogging.
Most of last month i was busy being a blogging competition judge. My dept at Univ of Mysore, in an attempt to make them more tech savy and proficient with technological changes, keeps organising such events. I was selected to be one of the judges. Never having judged a blogging competition before, i was excited and nervous at the same time. guess the mind works better in these situations. i decided to remain the judge behind the viel. Started leaving comments on the blogs without them getting to know who the real person is. It was fun. Though the students didnt leverage all the positive points of blog, they nevertheless enjoyed blogging. The excitment of know who the judges were was quite exciting as well. I msut thank Questor for his ideaas on evaluating the blog. Thanks Pradeep :)
We are in the midst of setting up blogs at work, lots of ideas are being given. Lets see how we get set.
Most of last month i was busy being a blogging competition judge. My dept at Univ of Mysore, in an attempt to make them more tech savy and proficient with technological changes, keeps organising such events. I was selected to be one of the judges. Never having judged a blogging competition before, i was excited and nervous at the same time. guess the mind works better in these situations. i decided to remain the judge behind the viel. Started leaving comments on the blogs without them getting to know who the real person is. It was fun. Though the students didnt leverage all the positive points of blog, they nevertheless enjoyed blogging. The excitment of know who the judges were was quite exciting as well. I msut thank Questor for his ideaas on evaluating the blog. Thanks Pradeep :)
We are in the midst of setting up blogs at work, lots of ideas are being given. Lets see how we get set.
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
Ghazal, sher, kaafiyaa
Read these details somewhere, worth reading...increases ur Ghazal knowledge
Ghazal ! The word originates from arabic, meaning, "way or mannerism of talking to or talking about women." Thus in fact its an expression of love! But in this ever changing world the ghazal has become a reflection of the life around us, and now there is hardly any sphere of human interaction which the ghazal hasn't touched.
To better understand the finer nuances of Urdu ghazal it is imperative to understand the structure around which a ghazal is woven!
Classical Definition of Ghazal
Briefly stated Ghazal is a collection of Sher's which follow the rules of 'Matla', 'Maqta', 'Beher', 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'. So to know what Ghazal is, it's necessary to know what these terms mean.
To understand these terms easily , we will take an example.
1. koi ummid bar nahin aati
koi surat nazar nahin aati.
2. aage aati thi haale dil par hasi
ab kisi baat par nahin aati
3. hum wahan hain, jahan se humko bhi
kucch hamaari khabar nahin aati
4. kaabaa kis muh se jaaoge 'Ghalib'
sharm tumko magar nahin aati
What is a Sher ?
It's a poem of two lines. This definition is deceptively simple. Please note that, every Sher is a poem in itself ! A Sher does not need, anything around it, to convey the message. All the 4 stanzas in our example are independent poems, Sher's.
So Ghazal is necessarily a collection of two-line-poems called Sher. [ So the Rafi solo "rang aur noor ki baaraat kise pesh karu" is NOT a Ghazal, as every stanza is of 3 lines, and not 2. ]
What are other restrictions ? Many, and important ones.
[ Any collection of Sher's is not Ghazal. Some good examples are ; the famous Mukesh song from Yehoodi, "yeh mera deewaanaapan hai" ; and the title song of "dil apana aur preet parayi". Each stanza in these songs can be considered as an independent Sher, but they are NOT Ghazal's. To understand, why, we have to wait till 'Kaafiyaa, 'Radif'. ]
What is 'Beher' ?
'Beher' is the 'meter' of the Sher's. It can be considered as the length of the Sher. Both the lines in the Sher *MUST* be of same 'Beher'. And all the Sher's in one Ghazal *MUST* be of the same 'Beher'. There are 19 (!!) kinds of 'Beher'. But in simple terms, 'Beher' is categorized in 3 classes. Short, medium, long.
Small :
ahale dairo-haram reh gaye
tere deewane kam reh gaye
[ Also Talat song, "dil-e-nadan tuze hua kya hai" ]
Medium :
umr jalwo me basar ho, ye zaruri to nahin
har shab-e-gam ki seher ho, ye zaruri to nahin
[ And by Gulzar, "ruke ruke se kadam, ruk ke baar baar chale" ]
Long :
ai mere humnashin, chal kahin aur chal, is chaman me ab apanaa guzaaraa nahin
baat hoti gulon ki, to seh lete hum, ab to kaaton pe bhi haq hamaaraa nahin
[ The filmfare winner, "Manzile apani jagah hai" !! Yes ! It IS a Ghazal. And the Shayar is Prakash Mehra !! surprise , surprise !! ]
So Ghazal is a collection of Sher's of SAME 'Beher'.
What is 'Radif' ?
In a Ghazal, second line of all the Sher's MUST end with the SAME word/s. This repeating common words is the Radif' of the Ghazal. In our example, the 'Radif' is "nahin aati". [ Sometimes, the Ghazal becomes known by its 'Radif'. eg. "jaraa aahista chal" sung by Pankaj Udhas. On RMIM we all know one Ghazal by the 'Radif' as "aahista aahista", don't we ? or is it 2 or 3 ? :-)
What is 'Kaafiyaa' ?
'Kaafiyaa' is the rhyming pattern which all the words before 'Radif' MUST have. In our example the 'Kaafiyaa' is "bar", "nazar", "par", "magar" etc. This is a necessary requirement. Something which is followed even in the exceptions to all these rules.
So Ghazal is a collection of Sher's of same 'Beher', ending in same 'Radif' and having same 'Kaafiyaa'. [ That's the reason, why "yeh mera diwanapan hai" etc. are NOT Ghazals. There is no common thing which can be called 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'. ]
What is 'Matla' ?
The first Sher in the Ghazal *MUST* have 'Radif' in its both lines. This Sher is called 'Matla' of the Ghazal and the Ghazal is usually known after its 'Matla'. There can be more than one 'Matla' in a Ghazal. In such a case the second one is called 'Matla-e-saani' or 'Husn-e-matla'. In our example, the first Sher is the 'Matla'.
What is 'Maqta' ?
A Shayar usually has an alias ie. 'takhallus' eg. Mirza Asadullakhan used 'Ghalib' as his 'takhallus' and is known by that. Other examples are 'Daag' Dehlvi, 'Mir' Taqi Mir, Said 'Rahi', Ahmed 'Faraz' etc. There is a Sher in a Ghazal, the last one, which has the Shayar's 'takhallus' in it. [ A Shayar, can use the 'Maqta' very
intelligently. He can "talk to himself" like one in our example. I have lots of favourite Sher's which are 'Maqta' of some Ghazal. Some gems are
koi nam-o-nishan puchhe to ai kaasid bataa denaa,
takhallus 'Daag' hai, aur aahiqon ke dil me rehte hai
and
jab bhi milte hain, to kehte hain, "kaise ho 'Shakil'",
iske aage to koi baat nahin hoti hai
The first one uses the meaning of the 'takhallus' to create the magic, and the second one is just simple, simply beautiful. ]
To summarize, Ghazal is a collection of Sher's (independent two-line poems), in which there is atleast one 'Matla', one 'Maqta' and all the Sher's are of same 'Beher' and have the same 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'.
Ghazal ! The word originates from arabic, meaning, "way or mannerism of talking to or talking about women." Thus in fact its an expression of love! But in this ever changing world the ghazal has become a reflection of the life around us, and now there is hardly any sphere of human interaction which the ghazal hasn't touched.
To better understand the finer nuances of Urdu ghazal it is imperative to understand the structure around which a ghazal is woven!
Classical Definition of Ghazal
Briefly stated Ghazal is a collection of Sher's which follow the rules of 'Matla', 'Maqta', 'Beher', 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'. So to know what Ghazal is, it's necessary to know what these terms mean.
To understand these terms easily , we will take an example.
1. koi ummid bar nahin aati
koi surat nazar nahin aati.
2. aage aati thi haale dil par hasi
ab kisi baat par nahin aati
3. hum wahan hain, jahan se humko bhi
kucch hamaari khabar nahin aati
4. kaabaa kis muh se jaaoge 'Ghalib'
sharm tumko magar nahin aati
What is a Sher ?
It's a poem of two lines. This definition is deceptively simple. Please note that, every Sher is a poem in itself ! A Sher does not need, anything around it, to convey the message. All the 4 stanzas in our example are independent poems, Sher's.
So Ghazal is necessarily a collection of two-line-poems called Sher. [ So the Rafi solo "rang aur noor ki baaraat kise pesh karu" is NOT a Ghazal, as every stanza is of 3 lines, and not 2. ]
What are other restrictions ? Many, and important ones.
[ Any collection of Sher's is not Ghazal. Some good examples are ; the famous Mukesh song from Yehoodi, "yeh mera deewaanaapan hai" ; and the title song of "dil apana aur preet parayi". Each stanza in these songs can be considered as an independent Sher, but they are NOT Ghazal's. To understand, why, we have to wait till 'Kaafiyaa, 'Radif'. ]
What is 'Beher' ?
'Beher' is the 'meter' of the Sher's. It can be considered as the length of the Sher. Both the lines in the Sher *MUST* be of same 'Beher'. And all the Sher's in one Ghazal *MUST* be of the same 'Beher'. There are 19 (!!) kinds of 'Beher'. But in simple terms, 'Beher' is categorized in 3 classes. Short, medium, long.
Small :
ahale dairo-haram reh gaye
tere deewane kam reh gaye
[ Also Talat song, "dil-e-nadan tuze hua kya hai" ]
Medium :
umr jalwo me basar ho, ye zaruri to nahin
har shab-e-gam ki seher ho, ye zaruri to nahin
[ And by Gulzar, "ruke ruke se kadam, ruk ke baar baar chale" ]
Long :
ai mere humnashin, chal kahin aur chal, is chaman me ab apanaa guzaaraa nahin
baat hoti gulon ki, to seh lete hum, ab to kaaton pe bhi haq hamaaraa nahin
[ The filmfare winner, "Manzile apani jagah hai" !! Yes ! It IS a Ghazal. And the Shayar is Prakash Mehra !! surprise , surprise !! ]
So Ghazal is a collection of Sher's of SAME 'Beher'.
What is 'Radif' ?
In a Ghazal, second line of all the Sher's MUST end with the SAME word/s. This repeating common words is the Radif' of the Ghazal. In our example, the 'Radif' is "nahin aati". [ Sometimes, the Ghazal becomes known by its 'Radif'. eg. "jaraa aahista chal" sung by Pankaj Udhas. On RMIM we all know one Ghazal by the 'Radif' as "aahista aahista", don't we ? or is it 2 or 3 ? :-)
What is 'Kaafiyaa' ?
'Kaafiyaa' is the rhyming pattern which all the words before 'Radif' MUST have. In our example the 'Kaafiyaa' is "bar", "nazar", "par", "magar" etc. This is a necessary requirement. Something which is followed even in the exceptions to all these rules.
So Ghazal is a collection of Sher's of same 'Beher', ending in same 'Radif' and having same 'Kaafiyaa'. [ That's the reason, why "yeh mera diwanapan hai" etc. are NOT Ghazals. There is no common thing which can be called 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'. ]
What is 'Matla' ?
The first Sher in the Ghazal *MUST* have 'Radif' in its both lines. This Sher is called 'Matla' of the Ghazal and the Ghazal is usually known after its 'Matla'. There can be more than one 'Matla' in a Ghazal. In such a case the second one is called 'Matla-e-saani' or 'Husn-e-matla'. In our example, the first Sher is the 'Matla'.
What is 'Maqta' ?
A Shayar usually has an alias ie. 'takhallus' eg. Mirza Asadullakhan used 'Ghalib' as his 'takhallus' and is known by that. Other examples are 'Daag' Dehlvi, 'Mir' Taqi Mir, Said 'Rahi', Ahmed 'Faraz' etc. There is a Sher in a Ghazal, the last one, which has the Shayar's 'takhallus' in it. [ A Shayar, can use the 'Maqta' very
intelligently. He can "talk to himself" like one in our example. I have lots of favourite Sher's which are 'Maqta' of some Ghazal. Some gems are
koi nam-o-nishan puchhe to ai kaasid bataa denaa,
takhallus 'Daag' hai, aur aahiqon ke dil me rehte hai
and
jab bhi milte hain, to kehte hain, "kaise ho 'Shakil'",
iske aage to koi baat nahin hoti hai
The first one uses the meaning of the 'takhallus' to create the magic, and the second one is just simple, simply beautiful. ]
To summarize, Ghazal is a collection of Sher's (independent two-line poems), in which there is atleast one 'Matla', one 'Maqta' and all the Sher's are of same 'Beher' and have the same 'Kaafiyaa' and 'Radif'.
Back to my sher-o-shayari
zaKhm jo aap kii inaayat hai is nishaanii ko kyaa naam de ham
pyaar diivaar ban ke rah gayaa hai is kahaanii ko kyaa naam de ham
aap ilzaam dhar gaye ham par ek ehasaan kar gaye ham par
aap kii ye meharabaanii hai meharabaanii ko kyaa naam de ham
aap ko yuu.N hii zindagii samajhaa dhuup ko hamane chaa.Ndanii samajhaa
bhuul hii bhuul jis kii aadat hai ik javaanii ko naam kyaa de ham
raat sapanaa bahaar kaa dekhaa din huaa to Gubaar saa dekhaa
bevafaa vaqt bezubaa.N nikalaa bezubaanii ko naam kyaa de ham
pyaar diivaar ban ke rah gayaa hai is kahaanii ko kyaa naam de ham
aap ilzaam dhar gaye ham par ek ehasaan kar gaye ham par
aap kii ye meharabaanii hai meharabaanii ko kyaa naam de ham
aap ko yuu.N hii zindagii samajhaa dhuup ko hamane chaa.Ndanii samajhaa
bhuul hii bhuul jis kii aadat hai ik javaanii ko naam kyaa de ham
raat sapanaa bahaar kaa dekhaa din huaa to Gubaar saa dekhaa
bevafaa vaqt bezubaa.N nikalaa bezubaanii ko naam kyaa de ham
Friday, September 30, 2005
Josh machines
Last Saturday we had our annual party at office. Annual day can be interpreted as parents days..Difference here, its one bunch of enthu emps who struggle between work,talents exhibition and personal life and one bunch of employees who watch their co-workers perform.
At our office we have an in-house Event management group. An amazing bunch of people, who now can give any events group a run for their money. Software professionals who have learnt the tricks of the trade.
Being part of this troop, it was fun organising an event for 5000 people. Equal dose of tension, the excitement, the nervousness all blended together, end into a awesome dish, taste of which is savored for days to come.
And I must say, the world is full of talented people...They never cease to surprise me. Wonder where in us lies the source of josh :)
At our office we have an in-house Event management group. An amazing bunch of people, who now can give any events group a run for their money. Software professionals who have learnt the tricks of the trade.
Being part of this troop, it was fun organising an event for 5000 people. Equal dose of tension, the excitement, the nervousness all blended together, end into a awesome dish, taste of which is savored for days to come.
And I must say, the world is full of talented people...They never cease to surprise me. Wonder where in us lies the source of josh :)
Wednesday, September 21, 2005
End Journey
One of our colleagues passed away today. The guy was on vacation from on-site, while driving trough the roads of God's own country, devil's own people in the form of state road transport bus driver, collided with his car. For nearly 7 weeks, he was in the ICU and this noon succumbed. Just when he was showing signs of life, the Creator had other plans for him.
This was the second accident case at our work place, about 2 weeks back, we lost another of a colleague in a freak accident case, that man was to get married in the next 10 days.
Death is such a leveler. It snubs life without warning. We live such a fast track life, where we plan life for the next 25 years, without a clue what the next 25 days, 25 hours, 25 mins or 25 seconds hold for us.
Speaking of death, I wonder how would all my blogging friends know, when I die?. Maybe I leave my blogger id and password in my will. Why this thought, don't ask me?
This was the second accident case at our work place, about 2 weeks back, we lost another of a colleague in a freak accident case, that man was to get married in the next 10 days.
Death is such a leveler. It snubs life without warning. We live such a fast track life, where we plan life for the next 25 years, without a clue what the next 25 days, 25 hours, 25 mins or 25 seconds hold for us.
Speaking of death, I wonder how would all my blogging friends know, when I die?. Maybe I leave my blogger id and password in my will. Why this thought, don't ask me?
Tuesday, September 20, 2005
Kuch Tabiyat Aisi apni
The past few days have been a roller coaster ride. while work and study have a habit of keeping me busy, I have been getting quite busy and active with my professional.
On one hand I am helping my alma matter put up a workshop exclusively for students, on the other I have been delivering lectures at my Library School. Ahem! yes, Last Saturday, an unfortunate crowd of about 60 people, comprising of library school students, Information professionals, and consultants in Information world, had to bear me for nearly hour and quarter. I spoke, rather, led them through a few useful links which they can use in their day-to-day professional affairs. end result, I got invited to another institute to give their managers some gyan. Aint I happening? ;)
Last week I was also a part of the first time summit in India, which brought together, the stakeholders of information Industry, the creators, the distributors and the users. apart from listening to luminaries, I had my good share of fun. Ofcourse I did some hard work, I was the official reporter for the Summit. Am making a small report to be published in a magazine (hopefully)...same shall be shared once I get a nod from them...wish me luck!
And a couplet for those who have got used to my shayari :-D
Kuchh Tabiyat Hi Mili Thi Aisi
Ki Chain Se Jeene Ki Surat Na Hui
Jis Ko Chaaha Usey Apna Na Sake
Jo Mila Uss Se Mohabbat Na Hui
On one hand I am helping my alma matter put up a workshop exclusively for students, on the other I have been delivering lectures at my Library School. Ahem! yes, Last Saturday, an unfortunate crowd of about 60 people, comprising of library school students, Information professionals, and consultants in Information world, had to bear me for nearly hour and quarter. I spoke, rather, led them through a few useful links which they can use in their day-to-day professional affairs. end result, I got invited to another institute to give their managers some gyan. Aint I happening? ;)
Last week I was also a part of the first time summit in India, which brought together, the stakeholders of information Industry, the creators, the distributors and the users. apart from listening to luminaries, I had my good share of fun. Ofcourse I did some hard work, I was the official reporter for the Summit. Am making a small report to be published in a magazine (hopefully)...same shall be shared once I get a nod from them...wish me luck!
And a couplet for those who have got used to my shayari :-D
Kuchh Tabiyat Hi Mili Thi Aisi
Ki Chain Se Jeene Ki Surat Na Hui
Jis Ko Chaaha Usey Apna Na Sake
Jo Mila Uss Se Mohabbat Na Hui
Tuesday, September 13, 2005
Waqt...boleto...time
The shayari bug has taken over me big time...one more awesome couplet.
kalam uthai hai lafz nahe milta ..
jisko dhundte hai woh shaqs nahe milta
phirte hai woh zamane ke saath
bas hamare liye he unhe waqt nahe milta...
kalam uthai hai lafz nahe milta ..
jisko dhundte hai woh shaqs nahe milta
phirte hai woh zamane ke saath
bas hamare liye he unhe waqt nahe milta...
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
Jaawani and girna....
log har moD pe ruk ruk ke sambhalate kyuuN hain
itanaa Darate hain to phir ghar se nikalate kyuuN hain
main na juganuu huuN diyaa huuN na ko_ii taaraa huuN
raushanii vaale mere naam se jalate kyuuN hain
niind se meraa ta'alluq hii nahiin barason se
Khvaab aa aa ke merii chhat pe Tahalate kyuuN hain
moD hotaa hai javaanii kaa sambhalane ke liye
aur sab log yahiin aake phisalate kyuuN hain
by
Rahat Indori
itanaa Darate hain to phir ghar se nikalate kyuuN hain
main na juganuu huuN diyaa huuN na ko_ii taaraa huuN
raushanii vaale mere naam se jalate kyuuN hain
niind se meraa ta'alluq hii nahiin barason se
Khvaab aa aa ke merii chhat pe Tahalate kyuuN hain
moD hotaa hai javaanii kaa sambhalane ke liye
aur sab log yahiin aake phisalate kyuuN hain
by
Rahat Indori
Monday, August 22, 2005
Bird of Paradise
Coonor is a beautiful place...not as exploited commercially as Ooty. An amazing place to stay in Coonor is the Taj Garden Resort. Was there sometime back and one of my experiments with the camera. :)
Saturday, August 20, 2005
Return!!!
This must be my longest hiatus from blogging.. I started writing many a things many a times, but one thought came back to my mind again and again. Do I really want to share all my feeling and thoughts out with the world...why should I????
Much has happened with me over the past few months, incidents have taught me that nothing is permanent in this world and what we see is not actually what you get. My morale has been badly bruised, but a few things have got me back to living life the way it is.
I hope to get back to being a regular....a promise I have made again and again and broken at my own free wish and will...One more reason I return...my blog celebrates its birthday soon...Gifts accepted :)))
Much has happened with me over the past few months, incidents have taught me that nothing is permanent in this world and what we see is not actually what you get. My morale has been badly bruised, but a few things have got me back to living life the way it is.
I hope to get back to being a regular....a promise I have made again and again and broken at my own free wish and will...One more reason I return...my blog celebrates its birthday soon...Gifts accepted :)))
Friday, June 10, 2005
Faiz
Ab k yun dil ko saza di ham nay
Us ki har bat bhula di ham nay
Ek ek phool bohot yad aaya
Shakh-e-gul jab who jala di ham nay
Aj tak jis pay who sharmatay hain
Bat who kab ki bhula di ham nay
Shahr-e-dil raakh say aabad hoa
Aag jb dil ki bujha di ham nay
Koi bat us main ho gi aay Faiz
Her khushi jis pa luta di ham nay
Faiz Ahmed Faiz
Us ki har bat bhula di ham nay
Ek ek phool bohot yad aaya
Shakh-e-gul jab who jala di ham nay
Aj tak jis pay who sharmatay hain
Bat who kab ki bhula di ham nay
Shahr-e-dil raakh say aabad hoa
Aag jb dil ki bujha di ham nay
Koi bat us main ho gi aay Faiz
Her khushi jis pa luta di ham nay
Faiz Ahmed Faiz
Friday, May 27, 2005
Gyan round
This is a very beautiful piece...a. must read
Keep The Faith - Transform The FearBy Lorraine Cohen
To what extent does fear rule your life? In my coaching practice, fear
often emerges when clients envision change and take steps to bring
those changes into reality. Familiarity fosters comfort and safety;
therefore, growth may be perceived as frightening. Recognizing some of the
subtleties of fear takes a bit of detective work.
Forms of fear include: procrastination, the need to be in control,
anger (which can be a cover for other emotions such as helplessness or
powerlessness), isolation, induced illness, rationalizing, and blaming.
Getting under the reaction unveils the fear.
One of my coaching clients was feeling stuck and overwhelmed. He
continually came to a point in his growth and went no farther. He felt a
duality inside. One part of him yearned to take a leap, another part
convinced him to stop—his life was pretty good, right? At the root of his
inertia was fear. He could stay in his fear, or take his life to the next
level. He made the choice to work through his fear. His first point of
resistance to change was his fear of commitment and structure. For him,
this meant being trapped. A pivotal shift occurred when he redefined
his perception of commitment and structure.
In our talks, he discovered he had already successfully committed to
his lifestyle (structure) of avoidance. This clarity created a shift.
Something he had wanted to do for years was to offer monthly talks to his
clients. Committing to schedule the talks within a specific time frame
was his first step. One month later, he presented his talk to a highly
receptive audience. By giving himself choice, focusing on the present,
and taking a risk in fear, he began to dismantle his fears.
I have found these to be successful practices to help transform fear:
Practice daily gratitude - Recognizing your daily blessings, both big
and small, evokes peace and trust. Expressing gratitude generates joyful
thoughts and feelings. Put your attention on the glass half full rather
than the glass half empty. I recommend writing in a daily gratitude
journal. Taking time to list gifts and blessings uplifts the spirit.
Challenge yourself to transform negativity by finding gratitude in the most
difficult situations. And, throughout the day, purposefully acknowledge
what you are grateful for, silently or to others. Share the joy.
Be in faith - Put your trust in your spiritual beliefs, Your own
personal history is a reflection of the love and gifts you recognize as
coming from the Divine. At times of doubt and fear, trust your faith and
inner wisdom for clarity and perspective. Gratitude, meditation, prayers,
asking the Universe for love, support, and guidance—whatever connects
you with Spirit is a source of comfort and strength. In trust, there is
no fear.
Be in the present - In his ground-breaking book, The Power of Now,
Eckhart Tolle advocates being in the moment, in the now. He stresses the
power the mind has in creating perceived reality. Our minds have the
ability to imagine the worst (intensifying fear) instead of expecting the
best. He says, "the more identified you are with your thinking, your
likes and dislikes, judgments, and interpretations, the stronger the
emotional energy charge will be, whether you are aware of it or not." He
believes, "unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry—all forms of fear are
caused by too much future and not enough presence." Disengaging from
thoughts and reactions (stimulated by thought) by becoming the observer,
will de-energize mind activity. Being in the present connects us to the
Divine.
Practice extreme self-care - I use extreme because taking the best care
of YOU is serious! When needs are not being met, negative thoughts and
reactions intensify. Does your life flow when you are neglecting
yourself? Being positively selfish and putting yourself first gives you the
vitality and desire to be fully there for those you love—by choice, not
obligation. Here are some tips: begin a regime of daily nurturing
habits, say "no" when needed, create personal time for you to do the things
you love, set boundaries, and speak up! Embracing self-love teaches
others how to love and respect you and attract people who will value
appreciate who you are.
Be in integrity - Are you living a value-based life and "walking your
talk?" When you live your life by being true to "who you are," fear is
replaced by peace and serenity. When you are in integrity, fewer
problems are experienced, consistent feelings of peace and well-being prevail,
and reactions to people and situations diminish. What are you
accepting, avoiding, rationalizing or tolerating that is compromising your
integrity?
Build a strong, positive, nurturing community - Be discerning. Seek out
quality people who will love you unconditionally. The value of having
the support of a loving community is priceless, especially during times
of personal pain and challenge.
Be a risk-taker, MOVE! - Taking appropriate, empowered action "in fear"
dismantles the illusion of paralysis and the power of fear. Where have
you hesitated or avoided taking action? What excuses have you told
yourself for remaining stationary? What holds you back? When needed, get
help from your community or a skilled professional. Hire a coach. Draw on
your personal strengths, gifts, talents and skills for courage and
focus. Your life is a reflection of personal successes in the face of fear.
Gain perspective, clarity and MOVE! Take action, one step at a time.
Several years ago, one of my clients shared this inspirational poem.
"When we come to the edge of all the light we have
And must take a step into the darkness of the Unknown
We must believe one of two things:
Either we will find something firm to stand on
Or, we will be taught to fly"
~ Rich Bach, Jonathon Livingston Seagull
Keep The Faith - Transform The FearBy Lorraine Cohen
To what extent does fear rule your life? In my coaching practice, fear
often emerges when clients envision change and take steps to bring
those changes into reality. Familiarity fosters comfort and safety;
therefore, growth may be perceived as frightening. Recognizing some of the
subtleties of fear takes a bit of detective work.
Forms of fear include: procrastination, the need to be in control,
anger (which can be a cover for other emotions such as helplessness or
powerlessness), isolation, induced illness, rationalizing, and blaming.
Getting under the reaction unveils the fear.
One of my coaching clients was feeling stuck and overwhelmed. He
continually came to a point in his growth and went no farther. He felt a
duality inside. One part of him yearned to take a leap, another part
convinced him to stop—his life was pretty good, right? At the root of his
inertia was fear. He could stay in his fear, or take his life to the next
level. He made the choice to work through his fear. His first point of
resistance to change was his fear of commitment and structure. For him,
this meant being trapped. A pivotal shift occurred when he redefined
his perception of commitment and structure.
In our talks, he discovered he had already successfully committed to
his lifestyle (structure) of avoidance. This clarity created a shift.
Something he had wanted to do for years was to offer monthly talks to his
clients. Committing to schedule the talks within a specific time frame
was his first step. One month later, he presented his talk to a highly
receptive audience. By giving himself choice, focusing on the present,
and taking a risk in fear, he began to dismantle his fears.
I have found these to be successful practices to help transform fear:
Practice daily gratitude - Recognizing your daily blessings, both big
and small, evokes peace and trust. Expressing gratitude generates joyful
thoughts and feelings. Put your attention on the glass half full rather
than the glass half empty. I recommend writing in a daily gratitude
journal. Taking time to list gifts and blessings uplifts the spirit.
Challenge yourself to transform negativity by finding gratitude in the most
difficult situations. And, throughout the day, purposefully acknowledge
what you are grateful for, silently or to others. Share the joy.
Be in faith - Put your trust in your spiritual beliefs, Your own
personal history is a reflection of the love and gifts you recognize as
coming from the Divine. At times of doubt and fear, trust your faith and
inner wisdom for clarity and perspective. Gratitude, meditation, prayers,
asking the Universe for love, support, and guidance—whatever connects
you with Spirit is a source of comfort and strength. In trust, there is
no fear.
Be in the present - In his ground-breaking book, The Power of Now,
Eckhart Tolle advocates being in the moment, in the now. He stresses the
power the mind has in creating perceived reality. Our minds have the
ability to imagine the worst (intensifying fear) instead of expecting the
best. He says, "the more identified you are with your thinking, your
likes and dislikes, judgments, and interpretations, the stronger the
emotional energy charge will be, whether you are aware of it or not." He
believes, "unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry—all forms of fear are
caused by too much future and not enough presence." Disengaging from
thoughts and reactions (stimulated by thought) by becoming the observer,
will de-energize mind activity. Being in the present connects us to the
Divine.
Practice extreme self-care - I use extreme because taking the best care
of YOU is serious! When needs are not being met, negative thoughts and
reactions intensify. Does your life flow when you are neglecting
yourself? Being positively selfish and putting yourself first gives you the
vitality and desire to be fully there for those you love—by choice, not
obligation. Here are some tips: begin a regime of daily nurturing
habits, say "no" when needed, create personal time for you to do the things
you love, set boundaries, and speak up! Embracing self-love teaches
others how to love and respect you and attract people who will value
appreciate who you are.
Be in integrity - Are you living a value-based life and "walking your
talk?" When you live your life by being true to "who you are," fear is
replaced by peace and serenity. When you are in integrity, fewer
problems are experienced, consistent feelings of peace and well-being prevail,
and reactions to people and situations diminish. What are you
accepting, avoiding, rationalizing or tolerating that is compromising your
integrity?
Build a strong, positive, nurturing community - Be discerning. Seek out
quality people who will love you unconditionally. The value of having
the support of a loving community is priceless, especially during times
of personal pain and challenge.
Be a risk-taker, MOVE! - Taking appropriate, empowered action "in fear"
dismantles the illusion of paralysis and the power of fear. Where have
you hesitated or avoided taking action? What excuses have you told
yourself for remaining stationary? What holds you back? When needed, get
help from your community or a skilled professional. Hire a coach. Draw on
your personal strengths, gifts, talents and skills for courage and
focus. Your life is a reflection of personal successes in the face of fear.
Gain perspective, clarity and MOVE! Take action, one step at a time.
Several years ago, one of my clients shared this inspirational poem.
"When we come to the edge of all the light we have
And must take a step into the darkness of the Unknown
We must believe one of two things:
Either we will find something firm to stand on
Or, we will be taught to fly"
~ Rich Bach, Jonathon Livingston Seagull
Thursday, May 12, 2005
Cycle of Life
Once we come to this world, we learn to lead life as taught by our elders. From the time we learn to crawl, understand the ways of life, learn from our experiences and mistakes to the time we give up the urge to live, we pass through a huge maze of people and incidents. Many people we meet imbibe into us some or the other quality of theirs. We look up, look down or just look even with all these people, a few who become acquaintance, a few who are just there, a few whose presence we cannot stand, a few who become an integral part of our lives...our friends. Through whom we share our wins, our losses, our triumphs, everything that can be thought off.
One fine day, like all good things have to come to an end, God calls this person to visit him, and there is this big bad void in life. Then you realize life is so short.
Its terrible loosing your loved ones, most terrible to loose your parents. Its equally miserable to loose your friends, because then you realise your number is not far off...Sooner or later, death will knock on your door step.
Today, our family lost a good friend, a man, whose life was cut short by deadly disease. Our entire family mourns the loss of this person...May his soul rest in peace!
One fine day, like all good things have to come to an end, God calls this person to visit him, and there is this big bad void in life. Then you realize life is so short.
Its terrible loosing your loved ones, most terrible to loose your parents. Its equally miserable to loose your friends, because then you realise your number is not far off...Sooner or later, death will knock on your door step.
Today, our family lost a good friend, a man, whose life was cut short by deadly disease. Our entire family mourns the loss of this person...May his soul rest in peace!
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
Sahir Ludhiyanvi at his best
Koun Kehta Hai Mohabbat Ki Zubaan Hoti Hai
Yeh Haqeeqat Tou Nigaahoun Se Bayaan Hoti Hai
Woh Na Aayien Tou Sataati Hai Khalish Si Dil Ko
Woh Jo Aayien Tou Khalish Aur Jawaan Hoti Hai
Rooh Ko Shaad Karey, Dil Ko Jo Pur-Noor Karey
Har Nazaarey Mein Yeh Tanweer Kahaan Hoti Hai
Zindagi Ek Sulagti Si Chitta Hai Sahir
Shoola Banti Hai Na Yeh Bujh Kay Dhuyaan Hoti Hai
Yeh Haqeeqat Tou Nigaahoun Se Bayaan Hoti Hai
Woh Na Aayien Tou Sataati Hai Khalish Si Dil Ko
Woh Jo Aayien Tou Khalish Aur Jawaan Hoti Hai
Rooh Ko Shaad Karey, Dil Ko Jo Pur-Noor Karey
Har Nazaarey Mein Yeh Tanweer Kahaan Hoti Hai
Zindagi Ek Sulagti Si Chitta Hai Sahir
Shoola Banti Hai Na Yeh Bujh Kay Dhuyaan Hoti Hai
Friday, May 06, 2005
A trip down memory lane
05-05-05, my previous company celebrated its 25 year of existance. A special party was organised to celebrate this remarkable success.
I was also a part of the celebration, and from the minute i walked in to now, am filled with nostalgia. I met many of the old faces with whom i worked and lot many new faces...who surprisingly knew me, probably for all my notorious activities ;).
The senior most member of the organisation and me were book buffs, he used to borrow books from me, and he came searching for me and said that his reading habits have dwindled...;) and should i tell if u was flattered or not?
After all the hi, how are u? long time no see...oh god, u have put on weight...man u have just not changed, Goodness its such fun to be seeing all old faces etc etc...time to hit the food and drinks as per interest...after a good dinner, i went to dump my plate and turned around to see a man standing there with folded hands, for a min i didnot recognise him, then it hit me, he was the watchman of the building. He would take care of my bike, when i left it at office over the weekend...monday morning, i would find my bike spic and span. He would tell me his stories of how his kids dont study etc and cry too at times. As always i would give him some gyan and tell him to have faith in God and himself.
It was a strange feel that hit me last night and am yet to figure what's that.
I was also a part of the celebration, and from the minute i walked in to now, am filled with nostalgia. I met many of the old faces with whom i worked and lot many new faces...who surprisingly knew me, probably for all my notorious activities ;).
The senior most member of the organisation and me were book buffs, he used to borrow books from me, and he came searching for me and said that his reading habits have dwindled...;) and should i tell if u was flattered or not?
After all the hi, how are u? long time no see...oh god, u have put on weight...man u have just not changed, Goodness its such fun to be seeing all old faces etc etc...time to hit the food and drinks as per interest...after a good dinner, i went to dump my plate and turned around to see a man standing there with folded hands, for a min i didnot recognise him, then it hit me, he was the watchman of the building. He would take care of my bike, when i left it at office over the weekend...monday morning, i would find my bike spic and span. He would tell me his stories of how his kids dont study etc and cry too at times. As always i would give him some gyan and tell him to have faith in God and himself.
It was a strange feel that hit me last night and am yet to figure what's that.
Monday, April 04, 2005
New Age shayari
Read this on one of the mail list...must laud the Shayar :)
Ab aae ho to phir vohi takraar na karnaa
Phir "zikr-e-siyasat" ka gunah gaar na karnaa
"Cigarette" na nikaalo ke fizaaoN maiN hai khushboo
Barbaad mere phooloN ki mehkaar na karnaa
Naraz na hona meri darkhavast pe hargiz
"Coffee" ke liye aaj to israar na karna
Aao zara saRkoN pe tehl laiN mere saathi
Sardi to hai be shak ,magar,inkaar na karnaa
Yeh raag yeh sangeet mujhe dete haiN lori
Gar sone lagooN to mujhe baidaar na karnaa
khud hi mujhe ehsaas hai apni ghalati kaa
tum apni shikaayat se sharamsaar na karnaa
Daikho mujhe dar lagta hai gussey se tumhare
Tum mujh se khafa ho bhi to izhaar na karnaa
Jate ho to phir "car " ko aahista chalaanaa
Phir tez Khuda ke liye, raftaar na karnaa
Ab aae ho to phir vohi takraar na karnaa
Phir "zikr-e-siyasat" ka gunah gaar na karnaa
"Cigarette" na nikaalo ke fizaaoN maiN hai khushboo
Barbaad mere phooloN ki mehkaar na karnaa
Naraz na hona meri darkhavast pe hargiz
"Coffee" ke liye aaj to israar na karna
Aao zara saRkoN pe tehl laiN mere saathi
Sardi to hai be shak ,magar,inkaar na karnaa
Yeh raag yeh sangeet mujhe dete haiN lori
Gar sone lagooN to mujhe baidaar na karnaa
khud hi mujhe ehsaas hai apni ghalati kaa
tum apni shikaayat se sharamsaar na karnaa
Daikho mujhe dar lagta hai gussey se tumhare
Tum mujh se khafa ho bhi to izhaar na karnaa
Jate ho to phir "car " ko aahista chalaanaa
Phir tez Khuda ke liye, raftaar na karnaa
Wednesday, March 16, 2005
So where were we???
Last week, at about 6:00 when the sun was just about the rise, and the morning turning to be bright and beautiful day, a splendid idea hit my empty head. Why not change my blog template?? Before laziness could take over me, i got onto the job...as i was doing the required changes, i started noting the trip to the great Friendship Concert, as you read and saw, i never completed it...so much for warding off laziness.
Here i start again..
Saturday 5th March evening will be a always alive event in my memory. The two soulful voices re-created their magic which has held people in awe from god knows how many years. Ghulam Ali started with a raag (pardon my sense of musical knowledge), which he said is dedicated to his Guru Bade Ghulam Ali Saheb, he went on to sing a Thumari and then his well known ghazals, Awargi, Hangama hai kyoun Barpa and the most famous amongst Indians Chupke Chupke...the man has a unique style of singing...the way he alters i am sure no one else can do it.
He gave way to the other maestro, who was greeted with cheers, claps the desi way (i hope u understand what i mean to say)...he had the crowd going crazy when he started with a medley fo songs featuring Chand (started with "Phool bhi dekha...Chand bhi dekha..." and closed with "Kal chaudviyen ki raat thi..").
The evening grew all the more better with the melodious, melonchanic voices treating the listeners to all theirs favourites....It's like you never want it to come to an end...just go on and on. On Public demand he ended the show with a punjabi number.
At the end of it, all of us moved away with the voices booming in our minds, even to this day i can feel it in me...wish these shows happen on a very regular frequency.
Just in case one of the organiser's stumble on my blog, maybe you could have made a extremely memorable show if the arragnements were a little better. The sound system was bad, till the last song, Jagjit Singh was seen asking for better sound quality.
Cribs apart, it was awesome. I was told this weekend Manna Dey performs in Chowdiah's, am gonna miss this one..:(
Here i start again..
Saturday 5th March evening will be a always alive event in my memory. The two soulful voices re-created their magic which has held people in awe from god knows how many years. Ghulam Ali started with a raag (pardon my sense of musical knowledge), which he said is dedicated to his Guru Bade Ghulam Ali Saheb, he went on to sing a Thumari and then his well known ghazals, Awargi, Hangama hai kyoun Barpa and the most famous amongst Indians Chupke Chupke...the man has a unique style of singing...the way he alters i am sure no one else can do it.
He gave way to the other maestro, who was greeted with cheers, claps the desi way (i hope u understand what i mean to say)...he had the crowd going crazy when he started with a medley fo songs featuring Chand (started with "Phool bhi dekha...Chand bhi dekha..." and closed with "Kal chaudviyen ki raat thi..").
The evening grew all the more better with the melodious, melonchanic voices treating the listeners to all theirs favourites....It's like you never want it to come to an end...just go on and on. On Public demand he ended the show with a punjabi number.
At the end of it, all of us moved away with the voices booming in our minds, even to this day i can feel it in me...wish these shows happen on a very regular frequency.
Just in case one of the organiser's stumble on my blog, maybe you could have made a extremely memorable show if the arragnements were a little better. The sound system was bad, till the last song, Jagjit Singh was seen asking for better sound quality.
Cribs apart, it was awesome. I was told this weekend Manna Dey performs in Chowdiah's, am gonna miss this one..:(
Tuesday, March 08, 2005
A Magical Evening
On Saturday i was at the Friendship Concert, by Ghulam Ali and Jagjit Singh. The setting was awesome, cool summer breeze coupled with the lovely ghazals of these legends and the crowd asking for more.
Thursday, February 17, 2005
V-day...how what why?
On V-Day, we had a contest at office, which asked people to write a short essay on how they celebrate V-day, basically narrate their emotions. The writer in me was in no mood to sit quite, this is what i came up with, some crap is what i would call it..
Valentine’s Day and me, how do i celebrate?
Valentine’s Day is a day when all and sundry express their profound love to that one person, who is the closest to the heart. Love, affection, display of emotion run high on this day, profoundly displayed by gifting, flowers, candies, chocolates, teddies etc etc.
From my teenage days I have seen, heard and been through this whole cycle of people around me preparing for Valentine’s Day and living through the day, as though it is never going to occur again. Lets start from the basics….What according to me is Love?
Love is an emotion that is very enticing, luring and at the same time stranger than fiction. It’s that one strong emotion, which is available in abundance with a human being. God has gifted living beings with all kinds of emotions, love being the strongest and in the greatest of abundance. Love also brings with it, pain, through which we live every single day. It’s the perfect blend of Agony and Ecstasy. As they say “you have to go through darkness of the night to appreciate the sight of a beautiful sunrise”. Such is the relationship of love and pain.
I personally don’t feel that you need a day to profess your love, everyday through your thoughts, actions and deeds you show your loved ones, your family, friends all those who are close to you how much you care. You live for them; you make every attempt to keep that sadness miles away from their eyes and face.
For me, everyday is a valentine’s day, and I may not say it with flowers, candies, chocolates, and mushy cards. I have my way to do things in life, different,
discrete and absolutely unique. People who know me will not be surprised if I celebrate April 1st as Valentine’s Day. It’s all in the feeling, rather than
following the calendar blindly.
The big question unanswered yet, how do I celebrate? A million ways maybe, something, which will bring smile, happiness, and radiance to the person for whom, I take the trouble. Cook a good meal; because once the tummy is full, with absolutely yummy food, the mind is at rest. Any which way, the road to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Put on the best smile of mine, and make the entire world look dull ;) and thank God for the beautiful moments of life, that I have got to spend.
My entire day goes in appreciating life, the beauty around me and saying what a life I have led. God is surely Great, for having sent us in this beautiful world and you don’t need a valentine Day to tell the Lord how much you love him for having sent you to this world.
A group of students once asked their Professor, Which was his most romantic moment? A typical kiddish question you would say. The Prof replied, “when I was flying for the first time, all alone, and when the air craft got into the clouds, that’s when I felt most romantic, I felt closest to God.”
Still keeping in the tradition, here is something, which I read about Valentine’s Day and it makes lot of sense to chronic bachelors/spinsters:
Valentine's Day, the blood red roses
Valentine's Day, the sickening chocolate cherry hearts
Valentine's Day, the day the bar is lowered and
poems are written, not out of affection but obligation
flowers are bought for the sole purpose of keeping
your significance as a "significant other"
making sure you don't fall behind the others of others
no matter what you've done so far
because on this mid-February day all the scores are
back to zero
and you are again just one misstep from banishment.
Isn't that how everything has worked,
the last three, four, five years?
"Don't mess up Valentine's Day, or you might not get a
second chance"?
These are some words, which don’t work on people like me, for donkey’s years I have seen this day pass by me. Always praying for the loved ones, those who are close to my heart and living life with greater zeal with them around. Till the “significant” other makes a grand entry into my life.
For the rest of my life…I shall remain 18 till I die
:)
Valentine’s Day and me, how do i celebrate?
Valentine’s Day is a day when all and sundry express their profound love to that one person, who is the closest to the heart. Love, affection, display of emotion run high on this day, profoundly displayed by gifting, flowers, candies, chocolates, teddies etc etc.
From my teenage days I have seen, heard and been through this whole cycle of people around me preparing for Valentine’s Day and living through the day, as though it is never going to occur again. Lets start from the basics….What according to me is Love?
Love is an emotion that is very enticing, luring and at the same time stranger than fiction. It’s that one strong emotion, which is available in abundance with a human being. God has gifted living beings with all kinds of emotions, love being the strongest and in the greatest of abundance. Love also brings with it, pain, through which we live every single day. It’s the perfect blend of Agony and Ecstasy. As they say “you have to go through darkness of the night to appreciate the sight of a beautiful sunrise”. Such is the relationship of love and pain.
I personally don’t feel that you need a day to profess your love, everyday through your thoughts, actions and deeds you show your loved ones, your family, friends all those who are close to you how much you care. You live for them; you make every attempt to keep that sadness miles away from their eyes and face.
For me, everyday is a valentine’s day, and I may not say it with flowers, candies, chocolates, and mushy cards. I have my way to do things in life, different,
discrete and absolutely unique. People who know me will not be surprised if I celebrate April 1st as Valentine’s Day. It’s all in the feeling, rather than
following the calendar blindly.
The big question unanswered yet, how do I celebrate? A million ways maybe, something, which will bring smile, happiness, and radiance to the person for whom, I take the trouble. Cook a good meal; because once the tummy is full, with absolutely yummy food, the mind is at rest. Any which way, the road to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Put on the best smile of mine, and make the entire world look dull ;) and thank God for the beautiful moments of life, that I have got to spend.
My entire day goes in appreciating life, the beauty around me and saying what a life I have led. God is surely Great, for having sent us in this beautiful world and you don’t need a valentine Day to tell the Lord how much you love him for having sent you to this world.
A group of students once asked their Professor, Which was his most romantic moment? A typical kiddish question you would say. The Prof replied, “when I was flying for the first time, all alone, and when the air craft got into the clouds, that’s when I felt most romantic, I felt closest to God.”
Still keeping in the tradition, here is something, which I read about Valentine’s Day and it makes lot of sense to chronic bachelors/spinsters:
Valentine's Day, the blood red roses
Valentine's Day, the sickening chocolate cherry hearts
Valentine's Day, the day the bar is lowered and
poems are written, not out of affection but obligation
flowers are bought for the sole purpose of keeping
your significance as a "significant other"
making sure you don't fall behind the others of others
no matter what you've done so far
because on this mid-February day all the scores are
back to zero
and you are again just one misstep from banishment.
Isn't that how everything has worked,
the last three, four, five years?
"Don't mess up Valentine's Day, or you might not get a
second chance"?
These are some words, which don’t work on people like me, for donkey’s years I have seen this day pass by me. Always praying for the loved ones, those who are close to my heart and living life with greater zeal with them around. Till the “significant” other makes a grand entry into my life.
For the rest of my life…I shall remain 18 till I die
:)
Sunday, February 13, 2005
Out of the world
After a long time, read a couplet which is absolutely marvellous
"Tassavur main chale aate, tumhara kya bigar jata
Tumhara parda rah jata, hummain deedar ho jate."
"Tassavur main chale aate, tumhara kya bigar jata
Tumhara parda rah jata, hummain deedar ho jate."
Wednesday, February 09, 2005
Brooding
How many times have you faced questions like?
What the hell am I doing with myself?
Am I taking the right path?
Should I be planning for my future...or lets take it when it comes?
Etcetc...am sure all of us go through these rounds of questions, from the time we have gathered out sense and have had the caliber of taking decisions and this process will go on till we loose our breath. We go through various crests, troughs, tides, highs, lows and what not of life, where each experience is marvelous, but once out of it, we crib, not appreciating what's the lesson loved of it.
Well, am I sounding like one of the new age guru's who teach lots of funda....phewww.....no no no...Just that, my head is as always filled with question and the wanderer in me says...Chakde...Live life King (Queen) Size and just chillll.
Strange are the ways of the world...true?
U bet it is....me is the biggest stranger of them all :)))
What the hell am I doing with myself?
Am I taking the right path?
Should I be planning for my future...or lets take it when it comes?
Etcetc...am sure all of us go through these rounds of questions, from the time we have gathered out sense and have had the caliber of taking decisions and this process will go on till we loose our breath. We go through various crests, troughs, tides, highs, lows and what not of life, where each experience is marvelous, but once out of it, we crib, not appreciating what's the lesson loved of it.
Well, am I sounding like one of the new age guru's who teach lots of funda....phewww.....no no no...Just that, my head is as always filled with question and the wanderer in me says...Chakde...Live life King (Queen) Size and just chillll.
Strange are the ways of the world...true?
U bet it is....me is the biggest stranger of them all :)))
Monday, February 07, 2005
State of Affairs
This is a famous ghazal, and i also found its english translation (for the under-privilged ;))
mili hawaon mein udne ki woh saza yaaro
ke main zameen ke rishton se kat gaya yaaro
[The price that I paid for flying in the air is that
I got cut off from all the earthly relationships]
2. woh bekhayal musafir main rasta yaaro
kahan tha bas mein mere usko rokna yaaro
[He was the carefree/careless/thoughtless traveller, and I the road
Where was it in my capacity to stop him]
3. mere kalam pe zamane ki gard aisi thi
ke apne baare mein kuch bhi na likh saka yaaro
[My pen was filled with all the world's dirt, such that
I could not write anything about myself at all]
4. tamaam sheher hi jiski talaash mein ghum tha
main uske ghar ka pata kisse poochta yaaro
[The person for whom the whole city was busy searching
To whom could I ask his home address]
mili hawaon mein udne ki woh saza yaaro
ke main zameen ke rishton se kat gaya yaaro
[The price that I paid for flying in the air is that
I got cut off from all the earthly relationships]
2. woh bekhayal musafir main rasta yaaro
kahan tha bas mein mere usko rokna yaaro
[He was the carefree/careless/thoughtless traveller, and I the road
Where was it in my capacity to stop him]
3. mere kalam pe zamane ki gard aisi thi
ke apne baare mein kuch bhi na likh saka yaaro
[My pen was filled with all the world's dirt, such that
I could not write anything about myself at all]
4. tamaam sheher hi jiski talaash mein ghum tha
main uske ghar ka pata kisse poochta yaaro
[The person for whom the whole city was busy searching
To whom could I ask his home address]
Thursday, January 27, 2005
Kya?
Zindagi ki dhadkano mein jaan kahin nahin hai
In parchaiyeeon ke bazaar mein insan kahin nahin hai
Khud se dokha khaye aur kab tak jeete rahe
Apne garebaan mein bhi to imaan kahin nahin hai
Na ranj ka rishta na tagaful-e-shikwa na tana-e-gayar
Khuda kya ab to qaatil bhi meherbaan kahin nahin hai
In parchaiyeeon ke bazaar mein insan kahin nahin hai
Khud se dokha khaye aur kab tak jeete rahe
Apne garebaan mein bhi to imaan kahin nahin hai
Na ranj ka rishta na tagaful-e-shikwa na tana-e-gayar
Khuda kya ab to qaatil bhi meherbaan kahin nahin hai
Monday, January 24, 2005
Possibility
Norman Vincent Peale says
"Become a Possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities - always see them, for they are always there"
Now how many times do i see the possibility of me becoming a full time blogger again and visit blogs of my pals?
Possibility ratio? 80/20?...u never know ;)
"Become a Possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities - always see them, for they are always there"
Now how many times do i see the possibility of me becoming a full time blogger again and visit blogs of my pals?
Possibility ratio? 80/20?...u never know ;)
Monday, January 10, 2005
Something heavy
Something absolutely heavy...
Ghalib says,
na thaa kuchh to Khudaa thaa, kuchh na hotaa to Khudaa hotaa
Duboyaa mujh ko hone ne, na hotaa mein to kyaa hotaa
huaa jab Ghum se yuun behis to Ghum kyaa sar ke katta ne kaa
na hotaa gar judaa tan se, to zaanon par dharaa hotaa
[behis=shocked/stunned, zaanon=thigh]
huii muddat ke 'Ghalib' mar gayaa par yaad aataa hai
wo har ek baat pe keh naa ke yun hotaa to kyaa hotaa
[muddat=duration/period ]
On the lighter side
har sham dafan hote hain kuch armaan
har subah ummeedon ki fasal khadi hoti hai.
har kabr pe ugta hai koi nanha sa paudha
har deewar me koi khidki khuli hoti hai.
Ghalib says,
na thaa kuchh to Khudaa thaa, kuchh na hotaa to Khudaa hotaa
Duboyaa mujh ko hone ne, na hotaa mein to kyaa hotaa
huaa jab Ghum se yuun behis to Ghum kyaa sar ke katta ne kaa
na hotaa gar judaa tan se, to zaanon par dharaa hotaa
[behis=shocked/stunned, zaanon=thigh]
huii muddat ke 'Ghalib' mar gayaa par yaad aataa hai
wo har ek baat pe keh naa ke yun hotaa to kyaa hotaa
[muddat=duration/period ]
On the lighter side
har sham dafan hote hain kuch armaan
har subah ummeedon ki fasal khadi hoti hai.
har kabr pe ugta hai koi nanha sa paudha
har deewar me koi khidki khuli hoti hai.
Tuesday, January 04, 2005
Easy and Difficult
My wish for all of you, May ur difficulties cease and life become easy and smooth...Have a wonderful year!
Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.
Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes
Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue
Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...
Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness
Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...
Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...
Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...
Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...
Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...
Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...
Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...
Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...
Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...
Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...
Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.
Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...
Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...
Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give
Easy to read this
Difficult to follow
Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.
Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.
Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes
Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue
Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...
Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness
Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...
Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...
Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...
Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...
Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...
Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...
Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...
Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...
Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...
Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...
Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.
Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...
Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...
Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give
Easy to read this
Difficult to follow
Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.
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